35 Quotes from Maybe You Should Talk to Someone book by Lori Gottlieb

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone Quotes

Hello. I am Deepak Kundu, an avid book reader and quotes collector. Here is a list of 35 quotes that I liked and saved while reading Maybe You Should Talk to Someone book by Lori Gottlieb. I hope you enjoy reading them.

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone Quotes

A therapist will hold up a mirror to patients, but patients will also hold up a mirror to their therapists. Therapy is far from one-sided; it happens in a parallel process. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Therapy elicits odd reactions because, in a way, it’s like pornography. Both involve a kind of nudity. Both have the potential to thrill. And both have millions of users, most of whom keep their use private. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Sitting-with-you-in-your-pain is one of the rare experiences that people get in the protected space of a therapy room, but it’s very hard to give or get outside of it. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

People often mistake numbness for nothingness, but numbness isn’t the absence of feelings; it’s a response to being overwhelmed by too many feelings. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Don’t judge your feelings; notice them. Use them as your map. Don’t be afraid of the truth. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

We tend to think that the future happens later, but we’re creating it in our minds every day. When the present falls apart, so does the future we had associated with it. And having the future taken away is the mother of all plot twists. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

You lose a leg or a kidney, you’re still you, but lose a part of your brain—literally, lose your mind—and who are you then? - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Life has a 100 percent mortality rate. Every single one of us will die, and most of us have no idea how or when that will happen. In fact, as each second passes, we’re all in the process of coming closer to our eventual deaths. As the saying goes, none of us will get out of here alive. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

The pain of a divorce is only partially about the loss of the other person; often it’s just as much about what the change represents—failure, rejection, betrayal, the unknown, and a different life story than the one they’d expected. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Therapy is hard work—and not just for the therapist. That’s because the responsibility for change lies squarely with the patient. If you expect an hour of sympathetic head-nodding, you’ve come to the wrong place. Therapists will be supportive, but our support is for your growth, not for your low opinion of your partner. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

In therapy, you’ll be asked to be both accountable and vulnerable. Rather than steering people straight to the heart of the problem, we nudge them to arrive there on their own, because the most powerful truths—the ones people take the most seriously—are those they come to, little by little, on their own. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

What makes therapy challenging is that it requires people to see themselves in ways they normally choose not to. A therapist will hold up the mirror in the most compassionate way possible, but it’s up to the patient to take a good look at that reflection, to stare back at it and say, “Oh, isn’t that interesting! Now what?” instead of turning away. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

While women feel cultural pressure to keep up their physical appearance, men feel that pressure to keep up their emotional appearance. Women tend to confide in friends or family members, but when men tell me how they feel in therapy, I’m almost always the first person they’ve said it to. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Love can often look like so many things that don’t seem like love. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Therapy is about understanding the self that you are. But part of getting to know yourself is to unknow yourself—to let go of the limiting stories you’ve told yourself about who you are so that you aren’t trapped by them, so you can live your life and not the story you’ve been telling yourself about your life. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Regret can go one of two ways: it can either shackle you to the past or serve as an engine for change. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

In movies, therapist silences have become a cliché, but it’s only in silence that people can truly hear themselves. Talking can keep people in their heads and safely away from their emotions. Being silent is like emptying the trash. When you stop tossing junk into the void—words, words, and more words—something important rises to the surface. And when the silence is a shared experience, it can be a gold mine for thoughts and feelings that the patient didn’t even know existed. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

The internet can be both a salve and an addiction, a way to block out pain (the salve) while simultaneously creating it (the addiction). When the cyber-drug wears off, you feel worse, not better. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

It’s a common belief that people’s sex lives reflect their relationships, that a good relationship equals a good sex life and vice versa. But that’s only true sometimes. Just as often, there are people who have extremely problematic relationships and fantastic sex, and there are people who are deeply in love but who don’t click with the same intensity in the bedroom. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

It takes a while to hear a person’s story and for that person to tell it, and like most stories—including mine—it bounces all over the place before you know what the plot really is. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Sometimes in order to feel better, you need a mirror held up to you, and not the mirror that makes you look pretty - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

I think about how it’s the not knowing that torments all of us. Not knowing why your boyfriend left. Not knowing what’s wrong with your body. Not knowing if you could have saved your son. At a certain point, we all have to come to terms with the unknown and the unknowable. Sometimes we’ll never know why. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Therapists aren’t persuaders. We can’t convince an anorexic to eat. We can’t convince an alcoholic not to drink. We can’t convince people not to be self-destructive, because for now, the self-destruction serves them. What we can do is try to help them understand themselves better and show them how to ask themselves the right questions until something happens—either internally or externally—that leads them to do their own persuading. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

When we give our minds space to wander, they take us to the most unexpected and interesting places. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Sexual feelings abound in therapy, and how could they not? It’s easy to conflate the intimate experience of romance or sex with the intimate experience of having somebody pay undivided attention to the details of your life, accept you fully, support you without competing agendas, and know you so deeply. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

The movement of dance allows our bodies to express our emotions in a way that words sometimes can’t. When we dance, we express our buried feelings, talking through our bodies instead of our minds—and that can help us get out of our heads and to a new level of awareness. That’s partly what dance therapy is about. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Just as parents raise their kids to leave them one day, therapists work to lose patients, not retain them. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

At some point, being a fulfilled adult means taking responsibility for the course of your own life and accepting the fact that now you’re in charge of your choices. You have to move to the front seat and be the mommy dog driving the car. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

You can’t get through your pain by diminishing it. You get through your pain by accepting it and figuring out what to do with it. You can’t change what you’re denying or minimizing. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Feelings are actually more like weather systems—they blow in and they blow out. Just because you feel sad this minute or this hour or this day doesn’t mean you’ll feel that way in ten minutes or this afternoon or next week. Everything you feel—anxiety, elation, anguish—blows in and out again. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Our lives are literally on loan to us. Despite what we think in our youth, none of us have all that much time. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Therapy is a profession you learn by doing—not just the work of being a therapist, but also the work of being a patient. It’s a dual apprenticeship, which is why there’s a saying that therapists can take their patients only as far as they’ve gone in their own inner lives. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

It’s especially important to be the people we want to be now, to become more open and expansive while we’re able. A lot will be left dangling if we wait too long. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Therapy isn’t a paint-by-numbers business, and sometimes the only way to move patients beyond their stuckness is by taking a risk in the room, by going out of the therapist’s own comfort zone to teach by example. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Relationships in life don’t really end, even if you never see the person again. Every person you’ve been close to lives on somewhere inside you. Your past lovers, your parents, your friends, people both alive and dead (symbolically or literally)—all of them evoke memories, conscious or not. Often they inform how you relate to yourself and others. Sometimes you have conversations with them in your head; sometimes they speak to you in your sleep. - Maybe You Should Talk to Someone